The Audacity of siblings

 SO, I got a text from my brother.

It seems that my dad and mom are going to need to live with someone.  If he was to go home, home health care would cost around 10-15,000 dollars a month...that is too expensive and would wipe out their savings pretty quickly, and medicare will only pay a small part of it.

So, he said, "we are thinking that Suzy can take care of them, we can move them to Boston and she can take care of them in her big house, plus, she works from home, so she will always be there.....THIS makes me laugh...she will not want to do that, and she will think of thousands of reasons to say "no"....

Then my brother (who is living in my parents house with his wife) said that the house is too small to accommodate another couple living there...so he doesn't want to take care of them...

So, here is the kicker....it is suggested that my mom said "Missy should just move back here and take care of them...move back in with my husband in that big old empty house of his....

THE FUCK??????? MY MOTHER DID NOT SAY THAT!!!  She hates me, and has not spoken to me in years....she is one of my abusers and I am suppose to move back in to my husbands house and take care of them???  FUCK THAT SHIT.

Really?  I left my husband, that house is his, not mine....he would be thrilled if I moved back...but not me, not ever.   I am not married anymore,  I never want to live in OK...that is a prison and not a safe place for me....I cannot believe the audacity of them to even suggest I change my whole life again just to take care of two parents that have lied to me, abused me and taken advantage of me my entire life....

I took care of them for over 30 yrs....now it is time for my sister and brother to step up to the plate....This is THEIR dad, not mine...I had a father that I loved and adored, and he died...they only knew of Jim as their dad...HE is more their dad than mine, so why the fuck should I take care of their father????

This is bullshit...my brother and sister are so fucking selfish and self-centered...they think their lives are too busy and important for the inconvenience of having to take care of two parents with dementia, but Melissa can!!!!!!! she has no job, she has money, she can take care of them....Melissa...and that is what they call me too...they even refuse to recognize that my name is Sparrow.

Well they can shove their request up their asses.   I AM NOT GOING TO GO BACK TO OKLAHOMA, I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR DAD, AND AS FAR AS OUR MOM IS CONCERNED...THEY CAN HAVE HER TOO...SHE WAS NEVER A MOTHER TO ME, SO WHY THE FUCK SHOULD I BE A MOTHER AND CARETAKER FOR HER????

I AM FUCKING FURIOUS THAT THEY WOULD EVEN SAY SUCH A THING...I AM FUCKING FURIOUS THAT THEY SAID 'MOM' MADE THE SUGGESTION...I KNOW FOR A GODDAMN FACT SHE WOULD NEVER SUGGEST THAT.....UNLESS SHE WANTS TO FURTHER MAKE MY LIFE MISERABLE AND MAKE ME FEEL UNSAFE...FUCK THAT SHIT...

DAVID IS RIGHT THERE IN OKLAHOMA, LIVING SCOTT FREE, NO RENT OR HOUSE PAYMENTS, IN MY PARENTS HOME.  THE GARAGE IS ENCLOSED AND HE COULD EASILY PUT MOM AND DAD IN THAT ROOM...THEY ALSO HAVE TWO OTHER BEDROOMS, SO IT IS ESSENTIALLY A THREE BEDROOM HOUSE...THAT IS WHERE MY PARENTS SHOULD GO, BACK TO THEIR HOME AND LET THE 'GOLDEN CHILD' AND HIS WIFE TAKE CARE OF THEM.

His wife even has experience in Alzheimer's and dementia as both her parents had it....so she could help in the caregiving....how fucking selfish of David to say "we don't have room for them"...they fuck they do!  He just doesn't want to be bothered with having to be responsible for them.....

Suzy will feel the same way, she will think of all kinds of excuses for them not living with her....

The only excuse I have is this:  He is not my father, my mother was and is one of my abusers, I have already taken care of them for years, and I am old, live in a one bedroom apartment and I will never return to Oklahoma.  I am pagan, a witch, and their are christians....FUCK, NO WAY I COULD DEAL WITH THEIR GOD BULLSHIT...

so the ball is in Davids and Suzy's court...oh, and the family meeting that the doctors had with family...I said I wanted to be a part of that meeting, but I was left out.  Suzy was their by Zoom, but they did not include me....NOW THEY ARE SUGGESTING THAT I MOVE BACK AND TAKE CARE OF THE PARENTS??  FUCK THAT SHIT.

FUCK THEM.

s, sophee