Soul Mate

 I have always heard the saying "soulmate"  who is your soulmate.  I figured that would be my husband, after all I was married to him for over 30 years...but he was not my soul mate.  We had nothing in common except we both went to the same high school.

I believe my advocate is my soul mate.  for these reasons:

we went to high school together.

His bio-mother did not want him,

My mother did not want me.

we both married our prospected spouses and honeymooned in El Paso and stayed at the exact same hotel in El Paso...different years...

His biological fathers name was Gary.\

My fathers name was Gary.

He has a biological brother name Gary.

I have a brother name Gary.

His birthday is the exact same day as my fathers birthday.

His biological family lives in the Oklahoma city area

so does mine..

We enjoy the same things (except music, he is country, I am rock)

He has twin daughters

I have (sorta) twin sons (only three months apart in age)

one of his daughters was flown to Albuquerque NM, piloted by Al Unser Jr. (Nascar),

I was a huge Unser Racing fan!

he has a daughter that was miscarried name Kelly,

I have a miscarried baby I named Kelly.

He has only been married once, 

I have only been married once.

He was adopted, my son was adopted.

We each have this uncanny knack for reading each others mind...in fact its almost creepy.

we were both raised in the Baptist church,

now we do not attend any church, we are both non-christians.

We enjoy actually being together doing stuff or not doing anything, just being side by side.

He does not lecture me on anything...he lets me be me.

He does not try and change me, he likes me just the way I am.

And I let him be him.

We enjoy the same things:  hiking, kayaking, outdoors stuff, watching movies etc...

He really sees me:  he is so attuned to me that he was able to find the alters and gain their trust. In the 30 years of marriage, my husband never even really "saw" me...

Neither one of us, ever want to be married again.

we are comfortable living in separate homes.

Even Boomer loves him, and Boomer rarely lets anyone close to him, it took almost 6 mos for Boomer to warm up to my husband...with my advocate it took like 2 days!  

His adoptive father died of heart problems.

My father died of heart problems

He has three brothers,  I have three brothers.

we can talk about anything..nothing is a taboo subject.

he accepts me, warts and all, and I accept him, warts and all...

he never judges me

I don't judge him

even silly things like:  I love long hair on a man, He has long hair.  And he defends me to others like I have never experienced before.  His love for me is absolute, no conditions...and I feel the same about him.

I could go on and on....

but this is the kicker:  If I was stranded on a desert island and could only have one person (my choice) to be with me...it would not be Dwayne Johnson or even Jason Stathom...it would be him, my advocate, literally the other half of me...we are whole together. 

Coincidence?  I think not.  I do not believe in coincidence.  I believe all things happen for a reason.

I believe it took us over 30 years to reconnect, because the universe was preparing us to be together.  It is like the first 30 years was college, and the degree was us/together.  

I wish that it had not taken so long for us to find each other, but it did.  And that's okay, because in those 30 years plus, we made beautiful kids with our spouses, we learned and grew and matured to the people we are now.

The Universe finally aligned us together...when we were ready...now, we are together, happy, growing, learning new things and enjoying the a life we have now...no kids, no spouses, no family to interfere, just us, being us...Resting in each other.  The goddess has blessed me.   

I believe every single person has a soul mate.  The trick is being patient and waiting for the universe to put you together.  Just because you may love someone, be married to someone does not make them your soul mate....think about it. It took me over 40 years to find my soulmate....

S