munchausen by proxy

My grandson, Gage, spent much of his life in and out of the hospital.  His mother, I am convinced, has Munchausen by proxy disease.  She thrives on drama, especially drama concerning her kids.   She is in her element when her kids are sick and everyone is telling her how great and attentive a mother she is...she gets all the attention.   Well, she did not kill Gage, cancer did...but now Lane, her 4 yr old has started the hospital thang.   He just got out for an ear infection?  If you saw their home, it is filthy...I know that now that Gage is gone, she will turn to one of the other two boys left, to give her attention.  Since Xander is a baseball savant, she will probably focus on the Lane for her "mommy attention from others"....this fucking makes me sick at my stomach.   

The worse part is, my son does not tell me when one of his boys are in the hospital...I have to accidently find out.  Why???  he says its because he is too busy and forgets....bullshit.  He knows I know how much of a fuck his "wife" or "egg donor" is, and he will not stand up to her as a man and husband.   So to avoid conflict, he leaves me out.

Fine, he can do that.  But, by not keeping me up to date on my grandsons, he is doing them a disservice.  He is not allowing me to be grandma...to send a card or stuffie, or call to my grandsons when they are sick or in the hospital.  By shutting me out, that tells the grandsons I don't care about them...AND  I DO...Lane and Xander will grow up thinking I don't care or love them...and that is just not true.  I hate their fuck egg donor mother, but I love them.

 The thing is, by my son shutting me out of the boys lives, he is shooting himself in the foot.   If I can't be a part of my boys life, then my money and time and love will not be there for them when my son comes calling needing something.   

My daughter is not much better.  but at least, Kingston is never sick or in the hospital.  Taryn keeps her home clean, she does her level best to keep herself and K healthy.  Unlike my daughter in law, who keeps her house filthy and her kids sick for attention and because she is such a big fat morbidly obese woman who is too fucking lazy to get her fat ass off the couch....I know, even though Taryn does not keep me up to date on Kingston, at least I know he is properly being taken care of....but the same thing goes for Taryn, if she continues to shun me of any information on Kingston, she is shooting herself in the foot too.  

I will not be taken advantage of.  If my kids want something, they will have to give me something in return.  Namely, access to my grandsons.  

I have raised the most selfish, self-centered kids in america.  They were spoiled for having such a great childhood and having everything handed to them...they have no ideal about reality...they are ignorant.  They think I will always be there for them when they need me...well that is not ME.   They treat me like shit, then they will eat my shit.

Fuck them.

S